My good friend, Carriecake, is probably my most emotionally inuitive friends that I have, not that I don't love you all the same. She's someone I seek out when I need intense emotional advice since I usually act more like a robot than a human. I have my friend Kim for no-nonsense approaches to life that most mirror my own. There's Amy, whose calming demeanor and approach at work are exactly what I need most days to keep me sane. Not to mention Rosa when I need a bit of crazy, Dahnya when I need a bit whimsy (and a good book chat), Catherine when boys are dumb, there's coffee to be had and Scrabble to be played, and Chrissie when I want to expound upon the wonders (and ridiculousness) of societal norms and activities.
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First excursion to RenFest with Carriecake and it was glorious. |
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So young...no clue we'd become such ne'er-do-wells. Love ya, KimBoodram! |
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Best birthday'splosion ever, Ames! |
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Nice rack, Rosa. Oooooh, Amy's ice cream, we do love you! |
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The most stunning bride ever...who wouldn't want to marry that face? You're the best, D! |
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Bitter beer face for the old lady, Catherine. |
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Why does this feel so long ago? |
All my faithful blog readers, all my good friends, all befriended for their own unique reason.
Carrie put it so succinctly the other night when I finally coralled her onto the phone. Imagine
herding cats, if you will...
"If only men could see us as our best girlfriends do."
What a sublime statement. So astute. So cut and dry. If a man could see me as all these ladies (and many more) do, he would see loyalty, kindness, hilarity, insanity, cleverness and a huge heart. He would also see neurosies unbeknownst to most men and would know far too much about a woman's body. But in all, he'd know exactly what he could be spending his time with and what he would be buying whenever he decided to
put a ring on it.
He'd also know when the words coming out of my mouth are meant to be ignored and when to be taken seriously. He'd know that not
everything I say has something hidden behind it though, let's be honest, sometimes it slips out. "What's wrong?"..."Nothing," I reply, petulantly, when in fact, I'm really annoyed that you didn't do, say or claim X, Y or Z.
Our girlfriends see us at our best and our worst and love us all the same. We can open up to them and be accepted, not rejected. They
know us. I realize that to have a strong relationship with a counterpart, eventually they will also see and know you as your girlfriends do. It's just the
getting there that's tough...
Life just can't be that easy, now can it? Shucks.