I stumbled across an article on Yahoo! today that was entitled "25 Manners Every Kid Should Know" and the more I read it, the more I realzied it should be renamed to "Things Every Adult Should Know" because so many are lacking. Just read below and be amazed at how few of these manners you see on a daily basis stemming from adults.
Manner #1
When asking for something, say "Please." -->
Do you always say "Please"? I forget sometimes.
Manner #2
When receiving something, say "Thank you." -->
I'm pretty solid on this one, but think about people you hand items to or who don't the universal hand wave of thanks when you let them over into your lane?
Manner #3
Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking. -->
Too true! If you stand nearby and notice that the conversation is winding down of its own accord, just wait! Or else, leave and come back unless it truly is an emergency and then interrupt when there's an appropriate lull.
Manner #4
If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation. -->
I like to say, "Pardon me".
Manner #5
When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later. -->
Dear me, this is too true. If you don't want to ask because you know what the answer will be, then you know it's the wrong choice to begin with.
Manner #6
The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults. -->
Out of earshot of anyone!
Manner #7
Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome. -->
This is more than for a child to do! Every human on the planet should do this! And yes, I am far from following this rule. But I'm trying!
Manner #8
When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are. -->
Simple and sweet.
Manner #9
When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had. -->
When spending time at anyone's house, always say thank you before leaving. Even if you're at a loud house party!
Manner #10
Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering. -->
Never know what could be behind those doors... :-)
Manner #11
When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling. -->
This one I'm iffy on. I say this can be a once in awhile deal, not constant.
Manner #12
Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect. -->
Yes, yes it can! Handwritten notes are so much more enjoyable to receive. You can feel the gratuity literally in your hands. Like a hug with words across vast distances. Far better than an instant gratification email. :-)
Manner #13
Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant. -->
Toughie. I like how this is phrased though, that adults already know them. So, I guess it still works for adults. Everybody alreadys knows the language! We all know that when you're upset you really want to use the B-word or S-word or drop an F-bomb or five. Why not cut those out and everyone can listen between the lines? Ha. Sometimes they really do taste so good rolling off the tongue, though.
Manner #14
Don't call people mean names. -->
Here, here! Again...lots o'work on my part needed, but, the intention is there!
Manner #15
Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel. -->
I like how this is phrased. Teasing shows weakness and bullying shows cruelty.
Manner #16
Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best. -->
Fidgeting is a hard habit to break.
Manner #17
If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me." -->
I got this one. I even say "Excuse me" to the doorframe when I run into it. And then say, "Thanks for the bruise."
Manner #18
Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public. -->
Elmo elbow! Elmo elbow, people! Or go Dracula...sneeze into the crook of your elbow and try not to slobber. Never cough or sneeze into your hands unless you immediately use hand sanitzer. I will avoid you like the plague and will most definitely make a face and drop a comment. Very blatant grossed out hint that you're gross, gross, gross and must leave my vicinity immediately!
Manner #19
As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else. -->
Always. It's so nice to see other people do this, too. :-)
Manner #20
If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new. -->
Definitely ask your co-workers if you can help on a project. You're all on the same team!
Manner #21
When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile. -->
Haha.
Manner #22
When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers! -->
Always say it even if the person you're saying it to couldn't care less and you know they'll never reciprocate because they are that naive/dense/full of themselves.
Manner #23
Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do. -->
It sure is funny to watch a grown-up use their knife and fork like a small child. Eat consciously, use your utensils appropriately!
Manner #24
Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary. -->
Holler! Though I sure do love to use my pants and t-shirts cause they are way handier.
Manner #25
Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed. -->
Don't reach over anyone ever at all!
Lessons concluded for the day! I plan to be a much nicer citizen now. :-)
